Sustainable Intimacy: Reignite the Flame for the Long Game
October 10th-13th in Sonoma, CA
$200 Early Bird Discount thru July!
Ready to fuel your intimacy—whether you're bringing the spark back or turning up the heat?
Navigating mismatched libidos, feeling stuck in routines, or just craving more playfulness and pleasure are natural parts of growing together over time. In long-term relationships, it’s common to feel desire ebb and flow, to relate to sex like it’s a chore, or to quietly build up feelings of rejection or resentment. Even loving, connected couples can struggle with differences in desires, changing needs, or the pressures of daily life crowding out time for intimacy.
Whether you're looking to rekindle passion or simply carve out meaningful time to nourish your relationship, this 3-night, 4-day retreat offers a spacious and supportive container to deepen intimacy. In a warm, welcoming, and nonjudgmental space, you’ll uncover what might be getting in the way of intimacy—and discover customized tools to support your unique dynamic.
Through guided exercises, playful exploration, and enriching conversations, you’ll be invited on a sensual journey to renew desire, expand your erotic potential, and strengthen the emotional and physical bonds between you. This retreat is a chance to slow down, savor each other, and co-create a relationship that feels vibrant, passionate, and deeply rooted.
In this experiential retreat, you will:
Uncover the various libido blockers that get in the way of your turn on, pleasure, and intimacy and receive the tools and skills that will help you overcome them together.
Break free of anxious-avoidant dynamics, cohabitator-coparent roles, and the pressure-rejection cycle and practice tuning into your feelings and needs
Explore how to flirt and offer tailor-made verbal, physical, and romantic bids for intimacy that make your partner feel desired and seduced
Discover how to create fun and exciting intimacy dates with a menu of ways to authentically connect without pressure by attuning to the rightness of the moment
Acquire an array of practices that will support you to discover your desires and increase your capacity for giving and receiving fulfilling pleasure
You’ll also have the opportunity to:
Eat delicious, healthy food that meets most dietary restrictions
Lounge in a big, beautiful heated pool and hot tub and immerse in nourishing nature
Rest in hammocks under the trees and take in stunning vistas on hillside swings
Explore the trail system that winds through the property
Take movement and mindfulness classes
Take a bonus workshop on romantic, passionate, and dominant touch
Participate in a sensual soirée
Receive additional group and private coaching sessions
You’ll receive a customizable roadmap with the 35 page Sustainable Intimacy booklet
Identify your specific intimacy blockers including pressure, insecurities, shame, conflict, stress as well as the skills needed to overcome them.
Engage in self-reflection exercises designed to foster a deeper understanding of your desires, needs, and fears.
Use the informational handouts to easily refer back to and remember the concepts, activities, and tools shared.
Select and record the specific practices and techniques that will empower you to continue to nurture your intimacy.
Location, Lodging, & Schedule
Discover this peaceful retreat 1 hour from San Francisco nestled in the treetops of Sonoma wine country, where breathtaking nature meets modern chic design and amenities. The outdoor space includes hiking trails spanning 10 secluded acres with swings, camping hammocks, meadows, and stunning panoramic vistas. The house combines luxury & mid-century charm with a heated pool and hot tub, 3 wood burning fireplaces and a fireside conversation pit, 5 remodeled bathrooms, 2 sunlit cozy living rooms, and a large event space. EV charging is available for folks who arrive with electric vehicles.
There are options for camping, glamping, and gorgeous private rooms, including one that has a private sauna and soaking tub overlooking the woods! Check out the detailed schedule, photos of the property and lodging options, and more!
Reviews
“This year marks our 25th anniversary, and we've never been to a couple's retreat before. But, we had attended other excellent courses with Dr. Aly, so we knew we were in good hands. The weekend was the perfect balance of classes, time in the idyllic Sonoma County setting, rest and reflection, and getting to know the other couples. We especially enjoyed that the harder relationship work regarding blocks to intimacy and how to handle them was tempered with fun, sexy classes. We came away with new knowledge and tools for keeping the flame alive in our relationship for many years into the future." - B.H.
"My partner and I have been so caught up in parenting, work and life that we had started to feel more like coworkers than in a relationship. We left the workshop feeling more connected both emotionally and sexually and also so much clearer about what caused us to fall into that rut and how to avoid it moving forward. We wholeheartedly recommend this course!" - S. M.
"We have tried so many things that haven’t worked and I can honestly say this was the profound reset for our relationship that I had started to question if it was even possible. I am so grateful to Dr. Aly and Seb for their assistance, humor, and thoughtfulness in the ways they made the material so accessible and applicable." - C. T.
"This workshop gave us the traction we’ve been hungry for in a way that feels authentic, accessible and real. We know what we need to work on and what each of us can do to show up more fully for the other. We already feel so much closer and are excited to continue to put this into action so we can maintain our intimacy." J. J.
Tickets
$200 Early Bird Discount thru July!
We also have space for 1 couple to volunteer for heavily discounted tickets. Payment plans available as well as group tickets for non-monogamous folks.
Meet the Facilitators
Dr. Alison Ash, aka Dr. Aly, is a trauma-informed sex and intimacy coach and educator, Stanford University Lecturer, author, and founder of TurnON.love. As a sociologist with a PhD from Stanford, she has a comprehensive understanding of the complex societal challenges that often lead to unsatisfying and disempowering sexual experiences. She designs workshops, courses, and retreats and offers individuals and couples coaching to give others the tools to discover their desires and confidently pursue them.
Dr. Aly is teaming up with her husband and intimacy coach, Sebastian Clarke. In their coaching practice, they frequently work with couples in long term relationships who are struggling to keep the spark alive. Through offering experiential practices, they support these couples to find new ways of being in connection with each other. Sebastian also has more than a decade of experience working with neurodivergent folks, supporting them to increase their capacity for healthy relating. In addition, he's a trauma-informed massage therapist specializing in nervous system regulation.