Sustainable Intimacy Couples Retreat

Fueling Passion for Lasting Love

Escape the distractions of daily life and immerse yourselves in a transformative 3-night, 4-day retreat designed to ignite passion, deepen intimacy, and create a sustainable foundation for lasting connection.

October 10th-13th in Sonoma, CA

$200 Early Bird discount through July!

This course is also available as an on-demand rental from home

Ready to fuel your intimacy—whether you're bringing the spark back or turning up the heat?

Navigating mismatched libidos, feeling stuck in routines, or just craving more playfulness and pleasure are natural parts of growing together over time.

In long-term relationships, it’s common to feel desire ebb and flow, to relate to sex like it’s a chore, or to quietly build up feelings of rejection or resentment. Even loving, connected couples can struggle with differences in desires, changing needs, or the pressures of daily life crowding out time for intimacy.

Whether you're looking to rekindle passion or simply carve out meaningful time to nourish your relationship, this 3-night, 4-day retreat offers a spacious and supportive container to deepen intimacy. In a warm, welcoming, and nonjudgmental space, you’ll uncover what might be getting in the way of intimacy—and discover customized tools to support your unique dynamic.

Through guided exercises, playful exploration, and enriching conversations, you’ll be invited on a sensual journey to renew desire, expand your erotic potential, and strengthen the emotional and physical bonds between you. This retreat is a chance to slow down, savor each other, and co-create a relationship that feels vibrant, passionate, and deeply rooted.

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In this experiential retreat, you will:

Uncover libido blockers that get in the way of your turn on, pleasure, and intimacy and receive the tools and skills that will help you overcome them together

Explore how to flirt and offer tailor-made verbal, physical, and romantic bids for intimacy that make your partner feel desired and seduced

Break free of anxious-avoidant dynamics, cohabitator-coparent roles, and the pressure-rejection cycle and practice tuning into your feelings and needs

Discover how to create fun and exciting intimacy dates with a menu of ways to authentically connect without pressure by attuning to the rightness of the moment

Acquire an array of practices that will support you to discover your desires and increase your capacity for giving and receiving fulfilling pleasure

Course content applicable to both monogamous and non-monogamous dynamics.

Plus, you’ll have the opportunity to:

Eat delicious, healthy food that meets most dietary restrictions

Experience a bonus workshop on romance, passion, and dominance + a sensual soirée

Rest in hammocks under the trees and take in stunning vistas on hillside swings

Take movement and mindfulness classes in the mornings

Lounge in a beautiful heated pool and hot tub and immerse in nourishing nature

Explore the well manicured trail system that winds through the property.

Receive additional private and group coaching sessions

You’ll receive a customizable roadmap with the 35 page Sustainable Intimacy Booklet

Open book featuring a table of contents on the left page and a worksheet about intimacy blockers labeled 'Pressure' on the right page. The table of contents lists topics like embodiment exercises, self-care menu, and relationship check-ins. The worksheet includes a scale from 1 to 5 for assessing factors like fear of scarcity and differences in libido.

  • Identify your specific intimacy blockers including pressure, insecurities, shame, conflict, stress, and more along with the skills to overcome them.

  • Engage in self-reflection exercises designed to foster a deeper understanding of your desires, needs, and fears when it comes to intimacy.

  • Use the informational handouts to easily refer back to and remember the concepts, activities, and tools shared throughout the course.

  • Select and record the specific practices and techniques that will empower you to continue to nurture your intimacy long after the course concludes.

Schedule

Fable Retreat Center

Discover this peaceful retreat 1 hour from San Francisco nestled in the treetops of Sonoma wine country, where breathtaking nature meets modern chic design and amenities. The outdoor space includes hiking trails spanning 10 secluded acres with swings, camping hammocks, meadows, and stunning panoramic vistas.​ The house combines luxury & mid-century charm with a heated pool and hot tub, 3 wood burning fireplaces and a fireside conversation pit, 5 remodeled bathrooms, 2 sunlit cozy living rooms, and a large event space. EV charging is available for folks who arrive with electric vehicles.

A secluded house with large windows surrounded by trees, featuring a stone pool and patio area with outdoor seating and lanterns, set against a twilight sky.
Modern living room with large windows, wooden floor, white sectional sofa, arc floor lamp, abstract art, and nature views.
Modern living room with stone fireplace, abstract wall art, wooden flooring, and minimalist furniture including a chair with a black fur throw and a small side table. Large windows provide natural light.
Modern living room with dark wood floors, a wooden dining table with black chairs, large pendant lights, a stone fireplace, and a wall-mounted TV. Large windows provide natural light.
Outdoor deck with modern seating, candles, and potted plants, surrounded by tall trees.
Outdoor dining area with a wooden table and chairs on a deck overlooking a wooded garden with trees and plants.
Wooden swing hanging from a tree with scenic view of hills and trees in the background.
Forest path with tall trees and dappled sunlight on a clear day.
Sunrise peeking through tall trees in a forest with a mountain in the background and mist in the valley below.
Exterior view of a house with lit windows and an outdoor seating area, surrounded by trees, reflected in a swimming pool at dusk.
Illustrated map of Fable Sonoma retreat showing various locations such as Twin Pillar Way, House and Pool, Hammock Hill, Contemplation Garden, Gathering Plateaus, Waterfall, Serenity Vista & Ceremony Tent, Shady Nook, and Tranquil Meadow & Shady Tree

Lodging Options

  • Two wooden Adirondack chairs on a wooden platform facing a scenic view of rolling hills and trees under a clear blue sky.

    Camping

    The Gathering Plateaus offer flat, peaceful campsites just a one-minute stroll from the main venue. Perfect for easy access and restful nights under the stars. Camper vans and small RVs welcome.

  • A tent with purple string lights in a dark outdoor setting.

    Glamping Tent

    This big, beautiful bell tent has a sound system, LED lights, battery power for charging USB devices, fan, rug, and high-quality, double-high full air mattress with bedding. It’s a 5 minute walk uphill.

  • Bedroom with white bedding, bookshelves on both sides of a window, a large framed abstract artwork on the wall, and mirrored closet doors.

    Double Room

    This private room has a comfortable double bed. There are two dedicated bathrooms next to this room as well as three additional bathrooms on other floors of the house.

  • Modern bedroom with a wooden bed frame, gray bedding, abstract wall art, side table with plants, and a wooden bookshelf.

    Queen Room

    This private room has a comfortable queen bed. There are two dedicated bathrooms next to this room as well as three additional bathrooms on other floors of the house.

  • Bedroom with a bed, mirrored closet doors, wall-mounted stag head, and fur throw blanket.

    King Room #1

    This spacious private room features a king bed. There are two dedicated bathrooms next to this room as well as three additional bathrooms on other floors of the house.

  • Minimalist bedroom with a platform bed, neutral bedding, two floor lamps, abstract art on the wall, and a chair by a window with a plant.

    King Room #2

    This spacious private room features a king bed. There are two dedicated bathrooms next to this room as well as three additional bathrooms on other floors of the house.

Primary King with Private Bathroom, Sauna, Soaking Tub, and Outdoor Deck

Tickets + Payment Plans

Early Bird Discount — $200 off through July!

2 People + Camping

$1950
$1750

2 People + Glamping Tent

$2250
$2050

2 People + Double Room

$2550
$2350

2 People + Queen Room

$2950
$2750

2 People + King Room

$3350
$3150

Volunteer Tickets

Experiencing financial difficulties? We are offering discounted volunteer tickets for one couple who would like to support this retreat. Contact us for more info.

2 People + Primary King

$3950
$3750

We are happy to work out a payment plan with you - reach out for more info.

If you’re non-monogamous, contact us for info on how to purchase a ticket for 3+ people.

  • "This year marks our 25th anniversary, and we've never been to a couple's retreat before. But, we had attended other excellent courses with Dr. Aly, so we knew we were in good hands. The weekend was the perfect balance of classes, time in the idyllic Sonoma County setting, rest and reflection, and getting to know the other couples. We especially enjoyed that the harder relationship work regarding blocks to intimacy and how to handle them was tempered with fun, sexy classes. We came away with new knowledge and tools for keeping the flame alive in our relationship for many years into the future."

    - B.H.

  • "My partner and I have been so caught up in parenting, work and life that we had started to feel more like coworkers than in a relationship. We left the workshop feeling more connected both emotionally and sexually and also so much clearer about what caused us to fall into that rut and how to avoid it moving forward. We wholeheartedly recommend this course!"

    – S.M.

  • "We have tried so many things that haven’t worked and I can honestly say this was the profound reset for our relationship that I had started to question if it was even possible. I am so grateful to Dr. Aly and Seb for their assistance, humor, and thoughtfulness in the ways they made the material so accessible and applicable."

    – C.T.

  • "This workshop gave us the traction we’ve been hungry for in a way that feels authentic, accessible, and real. We know what we need to work on and what each of us can do to show up more fully for the other. We already feel so much closer and are excited to continue to put this into action so we can maintain our intimacy."

    – J.J.

Your Facilitators

Dr. Aly and Sebastian  

Dr. Alison Ash, aka Dr. Aly, is a trauma-informed sex and intimacy coach and educator, Stanford University Lecturer, author, and founder of TurnON.love. As a sociologist with a PhD from Stanford, she has a comprehensive understanding of the complex societal challenges that often lead to unsatisfying and disempowering sexual experiences. She designs workshops, courses, and retreats and offers individuals and couples coaching to give others the tools to discover their desires and confidently pursue them.

Dr. Aly is teaming up with her husband and intimacy coach, Sebastian Clarke. In their coaching practice, they frequently work with couples in long term relationships who are struggling to keep the spark alive. Through offering experiential practices, they support these couples to find new ways of being in connection with each other. Sebastian also has more than a decade of experience working with neurodivergent folks, supporting them to increase their capacity for healthy relating. In addition, he's a trauma-informed massage therapist specializing in nervous system regulation. 

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